For many young people, results day does not always go to plan. They may not receive the grades they were hoping for or expecting, and this can bring a wave of difficult emotions. You might notice your child questioning their future, comparing themselves to friends, or feeling overwhelmed and unsure about what comes next. 

This response is completely natural. When any person feels under pressure or uncertain, their body can move into a “fight, flight or freeze” response. This means they may become very quiet, avoid conversations, or even respond with frustration or anger when asked about their next steps. While this can feel difficult as a parent, it is important to remember that these reactions are often a way of protecting themselves rather than rejecting your support. 

So, what can you do? 

The most helpful thing is not always having the answers but creating the right conditions for conversation. Try to choose a time and place where your child feels safe and less pressured. A relaxed, informal environment often works best. For example, a car journey can be ideal. Sitting side by side without direct eye contact can make conversations feel less intense and more natural. 

You might also choose a setting that links to your child’s interests, such as going for a walk, visiting a café, spending time at the gym, or watching a training session or activity they enjoy. These spaces provide gentle distraction and can make it easier for your child to talk without feeling like they are being put “on the spot.” 

When it comes to what to say, try not to worry about getting it perfect. The main aim is to understand how your child is feeling and what is on their mind. Open, simple questions and reassurance can go a long way. Let them know they are not alone, that support is available, and that their future is not fixed by one set of results. 

If your child is unsure about their next steps, remind them that they do not have to figure everything out immediately. School staff remain a valuable source of support, even after results day. Teachers and careers advisors have guided many students through this stage and can help explore options that your child may not yet be aware of. 

If your child continues to feel overwhelmed, anxious or unsure, additional support is available. Services such as Talk (a service provided by Isle Listen) offer a safe space for young people to speak with trained professionals about how they are feeling and get the guidance they need. 

Above all, your presence, patience and reassurance make a significant difference. Sometimes simply knowing that someone is there to listen without judgement is the most powerful support you can offer.